You're not bad at relationships. You're just really good at protecting yourself in them.

Maybe you overthink every text before you send it. Maybe you pull away right when things start to feel real, or you stay in something you already know isn't working because leaving feels scarier than staying. You can analyze your patterns with impressive clarity — you just can't seem to feel your way out of them. Maybe you have a nervous system that learned, a long time ago, that being fully seen wasn't always safe.

We'll look at how your early relationships shaped what you expect from love, friendship, and closeness now — the walls that go up automatically, the ways you manage other people's feelings instead of trusting your own, the parts of you that show up in relationships and the parts that hide. This isn't about finding the "right" person or fixing yourself into someone easier to love. It's about learning what it feels like to be known, tested in the safety of the therapy relationship first, so you can bring more of your real self into the relationships that matter to you.

Vulnerability isn't the risk here. Staying hidden is.